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Where Dreams Come True | Settling for Gaston

It’s no secret that little girls adore princesses. From themed birthday parties to halloween costumes, the obsession is evident. Clearly princesses are beautiful, and they also have all the desirable characteristics: kind, servant-hearted, inclusive, hard-working, thoughtful…the list could go on. These qualities are reason enough to admire them, but even stronger than admiration is the desire to be like them. And to be loved like them. Loved in the way Prince Charming comes around and is totally infatuated with the princess. But before settling down with him, there are sometimes “Gaston” characters (think Beauty and the Beast) that get in the way. The princess must be wise enough to wait for the better man, and thankfully she does.

For those of us watching the movie, we are pulling for Prince Charming. We want the cliché happy ending. Unfortunately, what we see in movies is too often the opposite of what happens in real life. Girls are constantly settling for Gaston rather than waiting for Prince Charming.

It doesn’t take long being around Gaston to discover that his ego is obnoxious, and that his world revolves around him. “Gaston” usually looks good but has a personality that should make you want to flee. Nothing about him screams “marriage material” yet still many girls will waste their time with him. For anyone who has seen this type of relationship unfold with someone they know, it can be confusing and frustrating because you want more for that friend. But it can also sadly make sense because you realize her ultimate desire is to feel wanted and loved, no matter who it comes from.

If girls would understand their worth, guys who won’t treat them well become an afterthought. In Psalm 139:14 it says we are fearfully and wonderfully made, and when God created us in His image He says we are “very good”(Genesis 1:31). Coming from the man who made it all, that’s HUGE. We are loved and treasured by our maker. The more we know Him, the more in awe we become of Him, and take comfort in accepting His love. It is greater than experiencing any semblance of love from a boy on this earth.

The only man who would be worth your time will be the one who knows and trusts the Creator of all things, because he will understand your true value. Women must not allow attention from “Gaston” to dictate their worth, but look for Prince Charming who can come alongside them and help them better know God, the only one whose opinion matters. After all (cheese alert): when their father is the King, they are already the princess they have dreamed of.

Coming soon: Part 3 of our “Where Dreams Come True” series.



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  1. Mike Taber

    Great thoughts Graham. Thanks for sharing. Keep leading and loving well.

  2. Mike Taber

    Sorry about the missing-comment. That belonged with the Magic Kingdom post.

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